WHEN YOU ARE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE ELSE

Let’s face it, we’ve all been there.

We’ve met certain individuals that are so hot; that despite how we feel about our partners, we want to take them to the “other room” and screw their brains out.

But before we dive further into the conversation, I think it’s safe for us to find out the meaning of sexual attraction.

According to Wikipedia, ‘Sexual Attraction’ is a kind of attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest. According to the Oxford dictionary, ‘Attraction’ alone is defined as the action or power of evoking interest in or liking for someone or something.

So in other words, sexual attraction is quite powerful and just like its elder brother Konji(Read a Might case of Conji) ,it has the power to invoke a decision. But we must know that as humans, there is absolutely nothing wrong or sinfully about being sexually attracted to someone or even someone other than our partner.Personally, I think it’s a normal thing…a human thing….

So people should just relax.

Ladies/gentlemen, stop expecting your boyfriend or girlfriend to suddenly go blind, deaf or dumb because they are in a relationship with you. Love does not maim people in anyway. The fact that you are in love with them or they are in love with you does not mean they cannot think, feel or see other people.

They still have eyes and can still notice the big ass/ boobs/ hot body standing just right around the corner. The only significant difference is that they have the power to either choose to pursue those abrupt feelings or not.

So if you are lady out there and you are waiting for the day your man is going to stop checking out other girls, that’s never going to happen. As far as I am concerned, men are gonna be checking out other women til Jesus’ come.

And if you are a man out there and you are waiting for the day your babe will stop receiving calls from other men, emm I think it’s safe to say you deserve a bench, because you are gonna be waiting for a very long time.

So my point is, being attracted to someone other than your partner is inevitable. However, as already mentioned, as individuals, we can choose not to pursue such feelings. It is sad that we live in a society where attraction, particularly sexual attraction is equated with love, and young adults are encouraged to follow their hearts, or in this case, their feelings.

We forget that: “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”-Jeremiah 17:9

Many relationships have ended and homes broken simply because one or both partners realized they were no longer sexually attracted to their partner, but with another. They unfortunately think that this gives them the right to jump ship since sexual attraction is important in any sexual relationship. A perfect example is, most African men believe it is their wives’ prerogative to always stay attractive. The moment she stops looking attractive, they believe or rather think they have the right to cheat.

Also Read : Having An Affair with a Married Man/Woman

Same applies to Nigerian women, although theirs is considered more monetary or emotional. From the monetary angle, their husbands tend to suddenly lose their sex appeal (sexual attractiveness) immediately they are broke. Their inability to provide is equated to their manliness or as in this case, sexual stamina (ability to perform). As soon as some other man is able to do more and above what her husband can do, he is considered manlier (which in a woman’s world could be translated as better sexual stamina) and so such an individual is seen to be more sexually attractive than her partner.

Also Read: When He/She cannot perform

As for the emotional angle, we all know women crave attention. 90% of women want to be touched, loved and pampered. There is no way a man will thus  be considered sexually attractive if he cannot offer any of these, no matter what position he holds in that woman’s life, whether as a husband or otherwise.

To be fair, I still do not know what anyone should do when they are sexually attracted to someone else other than their partner other than to run, So I’m leaving it to you guys to help me fill in the gaps; afterall there are some things that are easier said than done.

What do you think anyone should do?

If you are sexually attracted to someone other than your boo/bae, what would you do? Do you believe that once you are attracted to someone else, it means you are truly in love with them?

What’s your take? Kindly share.

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